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Posted: 4/8/2003, 8:17 pm
by Sufjan Stevens
Jim, on the second page you said I was complaining and told me to grow up and shut up. Then on the fourth page you say people should stop complaining in this thread, even though no one was complaining after I said my family issue. Now how am I not to think that was partly directed at me?

No offense buddy, but just because you're going to college next year to major in psychology, that doesn't give you any authority to tell me to make myself happy. You don't know me, but I actually am a happy person, except for when I am around my parents or when I am alone for a while. By saying if I go out and make myself happy, all my problems will be fixed, is ridiculous. Check out some of the basics to your major, it actually helps people if they talk about it, not supress it. Some one made a statement about not understanding why I hate my parents, I answer it, then you come in and tell me it's my fault for not calling the police on them when I was a child. That is why I have a problem with what you're saying, now please do me a favor and not respond to this on the board if you want to call me an ass or something of the sort again. Use the private message thing, there, you can give me crap there and no one will mind. Thanks, say what you want to me in there, but just leave it off here.

Posted: 4/9/2003, 7:49 am
by superboots
I just realized that advising people is kind of a hard thing.

Just asking, do I do a good job with advising and trying to "help" people?

I put help in quotations because it's early and I can't think of the appropriate word to use.

Posted: 4/9/2003, 8:02 am
by nelison
1. I never told you to grow up or shut up, anywhere in this thread.
2. I only said stop complaining if it is fact an attempt at pity or is a plain as day complaint.
3. I never once said to keep your feelings to yourself. I said that problems can be handled by going to people who can do something about them (ie. the police)
4. Don't tell me what I know or don't know about psych, you know just as much about what I know about the subject as I do the full affects your parents have placed on you.
5. My comments were supposed to be in general. If you are abused call the cops. I don't see what is so insane about that.
6. I have every right to post in this thread just as much as anyone has to post in any thread they choose. If I wanted to talk to you privately I'd do so, but I don't. Especially since I have no intentions of calling you an ass, I merely said that before you go making an ass of yourself you should think about what I'm trying to say.

If you wanted no one to post about your family issue than whats the point of giving the story?
I never once made any comments towards Alex because every teenager has some sort of pressures placed upon them by their parents. Parents are parents no matter where you are. I made comments towards you bcause I was letting you know that you have that chance to change things if you wanted to. If you wanted you can punish them for the ways they punished you. That's all I was trying to say but you took things immensely out of context.

Posted: 4/9/2003, 11:20 am
by Joey
I think we should just drop this now cuz it's going way too far :neutral:

Posted: 4/9/2003, 11:41 am
by mosaik
my parents don't put pressure on me.

they know if they did it wouldn't change anything anyhow.

Posted: 4/9/2003, 11:52 am
by committed
the only reason i would move out is to get tattoos

Posted: 4/9/2003, 1:04 pm
by Joey
I stole this and thought it sort of applied here:

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Just trying to lighten the mood .. don't hurt me :(

Posted: 4/9/2003, 1:25 pm
by superboots
that is SO horrible!

yet so true!

I don't know if I"m supposed to laugh or be angry...

I think I'll just laugh. :lol:

Posted: 4/9/2003, 1:26 pm
by Axtech
It's mean but in a funny way...

:lol: :neutral: :lol:

Posted: 4/17/2003, 2:24 pm
by sandsleeper
i think this fits best in here:

got my report card today. 4 A+'s, 3 A's, 1 A-. My mom takes one look at it and then tells me i "need to try harder."

what the fuck? even if i wasn't a senior already accepted to a great school these would be kickass grades. she has no idea how lucky she is to have me, an honest, hard-working kid who doesn't go out every night to get drunk and high. :uh:

Posted: 4/17/2003, 2:26 pm
by superboots
wow!
and your mom's a vice principal
she knows better
:neutral:

I just don't understand parents.
My mom does similar things, but she's realizing how easy I was to raise because my brother's giving her a run for her money.

I just don't tell my mom anything anymore and let her be totally oblivious. :nod:

Posted: 4/17/2003, 2:28 pm
by sandsleeper
damn... i need a sibling to make me look good. :lol:

Posted: 4/17/2003, 2:31 pm
by superboots
my brother and I are EXACT opposites

In 9th grade, I was asking my guidance counselor what I should take to get into U of M, my brother would rather play street hockey in the driveway

Posted: 4/17/2003, 2:58 pm
by superrgirll
oh crap, i just remembered that i got my report card today, and i haven't showed my mom yet. oops.

i did not do so well. :neutral:

Posted: 4/17/2003, 3:00 pm
by nelison
I just don't show my mom my marks... She never did say anything about them anyways but I still have never liked anyone seeing my marks

Posted: 4/17/2003, 3:03 pm
by superrgirll
my physics teacher screwed up my mark.

Posted: 4/17/2003, 3:31 pm
by Sufjan Stevens
Yep, why should you people show your parents report cards? Them yelling at you won't make you any smarter, and if they aren't making sure you study now, then they shouldn't be privleged to see your grades. I haven't shown my parents a report card in the past two years.

Posted: 4/17/2003, 3:54 pm
by nelison
my parents wouldn't yell at me for my grades. They put little to no pressure on me ever. I just don't like having people see my grades cause it makes for comparisons, thus one person ends up feeling better or worse about themselves. Ask any of my friends, they couldn't tell you any mark I've ever gotten because as soon as I get any tests or anything back, it goes straight in the back of my binder and I look it over later at home

Posted: 4/17/2003, 3:57 pm
by superboots
my mom would never yell at me for my grades, well, that's because i've never given her a reason to
but she does subtle things that piss me off
she never gives me any praise or sign of encouragement when I tell her how I've done.
so I just don't tell her about them anymore

Posted: 4/17/2003, 3:58 pm
by emily
I feel the same way. I keep squeezing out As like a rabbit squeezes out babies but she just takes it for granted now.